WELCOME 2023 – Let it a be a good year to ignite our hearts!
Over the holidays most of us looked back at 2022 with a heavy heart. It was a tough year and we all thought and hoped for a lighter and brighter year. But hello 2023!
THE GOOD NEWS & THE BAD NEWS
The bad news – Is that we can’t change things that are out of our control. We can’t change how other people behave.
The good news – Is that we can learn how to navigate our challenges better and we can control how we show up in life. We always have a choice how we respond to others.
I like to think we have learned from the past years about what matters most to us. What we need as human beings. And I hope that you are more aware of what you need to feel loved and appreciated. Because if you have moved a little closer to yourself and developed more self-awareness and self-compassion, this will always organically translate into kinship for others.
THE NEED TO BELONG
it is our basic human need to belong. To feel the sense of belonging. It is a basic psychological human need like safety. We all want to feel a sense of belonging to a group, a family, a tribe, maybe a church or a golf team. To be connected at a deeper heart level. To belong means that you can be you. Your beautiful perfectly imperfect self. Do not mistake this for fitting in.
I love the work of Brené Brown and in her recent Atlas of the Heart she describes “to belong is to be you. Fitting in is being accepted for being like everyone else” . To belong is to be accepted for who you are. If I get to be me, I belong. If I have to be like you, I fit in.
I love the work of Brené Brown and in her recent Atlas of the Heart she describes “to belong is to be you. Fitting in is being accepted for being like everyone else” . To belong is to be accepted for who you are. If I get to be me, I belong. If I have to be like you, I fit in.
If we experience the freedom of being ourselves, we feel free and liberated of the pressure of pretending. If we don’t have to hide behind our shields, our armor anymore, we come out of hiding. When you show you, people will love you more.
The more we connect at that heart level, we feel braver, and it is giving ourselves permission to mess up, to laugh at our mistakes and to have compassion when others mess up.
